tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31602017.post115613052358814806..comments2023-10-10T12:31:55.576-04:00Comments on The Mouse's Nest: The fear of the (other) motherMousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14704189465052882543noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31602017.post-1158850940682998642006-09-21T11:02:00.000-04:002006-09-21T11:02:00.000-04:00Hey Mouse.I read this before I "knew" you better a...Hey Mouse.<BR/>I read this before I "knew" you better and didn't feel like I could or should comment. When I read that comment on Catherine's page I got such a sick feeling. What's to say except that I keep hoping for and working for change. Its a small comfort to me that it allowed you and your wife to talk about some important issues. <BR/>The colleague I job shared with last year is an adoptive mom to her partners baby. I cannot imagine feeling like your child could be taken away or having the validity of your marriage questioned.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31602017.post-1156445066966228152006-08-24T14:44:00.000-04:002006-08-24T14:44:00.000-04:00I am so sorry your wife feels this way. I'm not a...I am so sorry your wife feels this way. I'm not a lesbian and I don't pretend to know the issues you are facing, but I am a mother & I can imagine the fear of losing your child. How hard it must be to hold back your physical love. A child needs all kinds of love, from both parents, regardless of sex. I hope things change.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31602017.post-1156197791894974622006-08-21T18:03:00.000-04:002006-08-21T18:03:00.000-04:00When I'm feeling optimistic, I remind myself that ...When I'm feeling optimistic, I remind myself that I never expected to be able to marry, in a very legal and binding sense, the woman I wanted to spend my life with. So we've already come further than I had thought possible, although the changes are geographically limited.<BR/><BR/>The optimism grows when I look at upcoming generations. I love that so many of the kids I taught truly couldn't understand objections to gay marriage. I love that my son's at a preschool where they talk matter-of-factly about the different people and families out there. I fervently hope that what I'm seeing is happening other places. On good days, I truly believe it.Mousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14704189465052882543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31602017.post-1156167500121655292006-08-21T09:38:00.000-04:002006-08-21T09:38:00.000-04:00Sad but true that we likely won't see sweeping cha...Sad but true that we likely won't see sweeping changes in our lifetimes. But maybe in the lifetimes of our children. Which is why it so, so important for all parents to be effusive in their love for their children, and to communicate to our children just how very boundless love is. The more they love (I hope, I hope) the more open they will be to love in all of its many forms.<BR/><BR/>In the meantime, I wish wish wish for you that you are both able to keep the fears minimized. <BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for writing this.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.com